Hi guys, welcome back to another article on It’s True Blog. Today I want to talk about How To Deal With Loneliness While Moving/Living Abroad.
So I’ve been living abroad for two years now. I was born in The Netherlands and that’s where I was living until I made the decision to move to London in 2015 to pursue my masters degree. Now I’m living In Dublin for 11 months now and it was because of work why I made this decision. If I look back to the past two years of living abroad I must say it has been an incredible and challenging experience at the same time. You are completely out of your comfort zone and basically you’re starting a new life from scratch. These experiences change you… in a good way. You grow as a person, you learn to understand different kinds of people, you meet new people, new stories, new challenges. The list goes on and on. I’ve had many people rooting for me and saying ”Wow Trudy, well done for moving to a new country and leaving your comfort zone behind. I wish I could do it.” I understand now why people see it as a challenge, because honestly it’s not something that is so easy to do. You need to be prepared for it. Mentally and emotionally because at times it can become overwhelming. One of the things that I had to deal with is loneliness…
Loneliness is something that a lot of people have to deal with when they move to a new country. You don’t know anyone so you have to build a new group of friends, find your way around, adapt to the culture and so on. It’s tough at times. I had moments where I just wanted to pack my bags and leave. I hated the feeling of being alone. But eventually you must have your eyes on the prize and remember the reason why you actually moved in the first place. I mean even now, at times I do very lonely but I try to snap out of it. So here are ways how I manage to deal with loneliness while living abroad.
1 – Put in a little more effort to meet new people
As soon as you land on new soil, you have to put in a little more effort to meet new people even if you’re a bit of an introvert. When you meet new people, through those people you can meet some more people. After a while, you will know who you can really kick it off with. Having friends in a new city makes the experience more fun. For example, you can explore new places of the city together. I was struggling with this in the beginning, but after a while I realized that I had to invest my time in making friends. It makes you forget the feeling of being/feeling alone as you’re out and about and not continuously at home.
2 – Keep yourself busy with the things you love
Another way I forget about feeling lonely is by doing things that I really enjoy doing. For example making videos for my YouTube channel and writing articles for my blog is something that keeps me occupied, which I love. For examplw if you like working out check out the nearest gym and register. If you like going to museums or going to the movies. Just check online to see what’s up and make a plan of when you’re going to visit.
3 – Keep in touch with your friends/family back home
I’m such a family person. I super close with my parents and sisters so I communicate with family every single day hahaha. What has helped me a lot is actually communicating with your closest friends and family from back home. Even when you’re feeling down, they know how to cheer you up or just be there for you. Catching up with loved ones helps a lot during times that you feel lonely.
That’s it for today guys. I hope these tips were handy. If you like this article, don’t forget to subscribe to the newsletters below! Have you lived abroad before?